Often we are taught that to celebrate, enjoy, and bask in the essence of affection on February 14th, we have to be romantically involved with (or interested in) someone. Consumerism tells us to spend money we may not have on cards that will most likely be met with an "awe, so sweet" and jammed into the junk drawer. Chocolate gift boxes that may or may not be eaten unless there is caramel in the center of each morsel. And flowers that will absolutely die in less than a week despite the flower food packs they come with them. In all honesty, as an adult, I never really understood Valentine's Day, even as I navigated the dating world. It always felt a little off and a little awkward.
The older I got, the more confused I became about why this one day was dedicated to what seemed to be showering people with gifts and calling it love. I even caught myself getting down and depressed some years because I didn't have a Valentine. That's when I knew, it was time to shift my interpretation of societal messaging and stop being focused on exhausting my emotional and financial piggy bank in the name of "Happy Valentine's Day."
These days, Valentine's Day looks like an intense version of my self-care practice. I like to dive in head first with pampering myself and making time for me and only me. Even though I am married now, February 14th is still deemed a sacred self-love day filled with journaling, podcasts, DIY facials, a warm candlelit bath, writing a love letter to myself, quiet time with a good book, and a lovely home cooked meal. For those of you looking to celebrate yourself on the 14th by stepping into intentional self-love, I've left some things for you to enjoy below.
For your journal:
- What am I longing for in this time of my life?
- How am I manifesting the love I desire?
- What builds me up emotionally, physically, and mentally?
For your face:
1/2 tablespoon of Herbivore Botanicals Pink Clay Exfoliating Mask
1 tablespoon Rosewater
1/2 teaspoon of Apple Cide Vinegar
1/2 teaspoon jojoba or olive oil
10 drops of lavender essential oil
1 steeped Chamomile Tea Bag
1 oz warm oat milk
Blend all together and enjoy warm.
Real Love by Sharon Salzberg